HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

"Bad Mother"
Letter to a Friend


Hey girl! Have you heard about this book "Bad Mother?" I saw the author interviewed on the Morning Show this morning. It is about so many mothers who judge other mothers over so many things because they think "they" have it all together, that they are perfect mothers and have the best children, to make themselves feel better, make themselves superior or because they feel like a bad mother themselves and how the fathers don't have to measure up to these standards. I might have to get the book.

But what I wanted mainly to say as I watched this interview is that "YOU" are a "GOOD" mother. And ya know what?...so am I. I was never a soccer mom or have not done tons of community service although I have my own service between me and God along with convictions and it makes me proud when I hear my child tell me he made the right choice by helping another, my child isn't perfect, nor I or my family, but we care and even if we see some other mothers who seems to act perfect and have it all together it just ain't so. I love my child dearly and would protect him at all cost.

I've suffered with guilt for many years because I didn't have the "model" hospital delivery, I'm not the best cook...not by my choice, but my kid barely eats fruits and vegetables, I've cussed at my child, there were times I should have been there and was not. My child is not an honor roll student nor does he care but I give him incentives to make A, B and C's. I'm constantly tired...and the list goes on for every mother out there. But God knew I was mean't to be a mother even though the doctor said "you can't do it" because of depression and being off medication for a year. I will never be the perfect mom but who is?... but a lot of things I've done right...and I have relished the moments when my child has expressed "alright Mom!, "WOW Mom!" and "Super Mom!" and you know, somehow, not always in our time table, we pray our kids turn out alright. Some women may choose to believe they have it totally together and judge other mothers but they are only fooling themselves under the pressure to want to be perfect in others eyes...which really is just insecurity.

"YOU" my friend are an excellent mother, despite it all. I am too. And I love and miss you greatly.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

All my love. Your sister, Bev